Wednesday, November 14, 2007

NOVEMBER 14, 2007

It was the Oreo effect on last night's Dancing With the Stars: The Results when the viewing audience chose to eliminate the fluffy stuff in the middle -- voting All My Children's Cameron Mathison and his professional partner Edyta Swilinska out. It appears that Edyta's skimpy and skimpier outfits will never help the dancer into the winner's circle. Remaining in the competition are Monday night's high scorers Helio Castroneves and Mel B, and low scorers Jennie Garth and Marie Osmond. During next week's semi-finals, all will again perform two numbers again -- a Latin and a ballroom dance of their choosing.

It has certainly been a season of upsets and mysteries with injuries, illnesses and family crises, but perhaps the biggest shocker was the elimination of consistent frontrunners Cheetah Girl Sabrina Bryan and her boogie boy Mark Ballas. The couple will return on Monday to give viewers a sneak peek of what to expect during the Dancing With the Stars Tour.

Dr. Phil suggests keeping the following points in mind when you're talking to someone who you think might be stretching the truth.

1) Too much or too little eye contact. Liars tend to avoid looking people in the eye, but if they are staring you down, they may be working hard at lying.

2) Over-emphasizes details. When people are trying to avoid telling the truth, they often pick some obscure point and talk about it a lot instead of focusing on the key issue.

3) Fidgeting. Is the person you're talking to very fidgety? You often see kids do this when they're telling a tale. That's a sign that someone may be lying.

4) Touching nose. Research shows that when people lie, they tend to touch the base of their nose a lot. "That's a dead giveaway," says Dr. Phil.

5) Mouth pursed. When people tell a lie, they can't get enough oxygen, so they tend to breathe through their mouth instead of through their nose.

6) Speech hesitations. Pausing, throat clearing, or other stalling techniques may indicate that a person is embellishing the truth.

7) Looking up or down. They may be stalling for time.

8) Answers questions not asked. Without even asking them a question, liars will defend themselves.

9) Other body language to check for to spot a potential liar include: excessive blinking, dilated pupils, pitch changes, less smiling, and shrugging shoulders.

Lies that are tolerable:
1. Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I was caught in traffic.
2. You made this spaghetti sauce? I love it.
3. Your mother is charming.
4. I did not throw out YOUR old, torn up tee shirt with the chocolate ice cream stain on it that you love.

It's OK to lie about:
1. The amount of pain you suffered in your divorce or your last break up.
2. The fact that you're desperate to meet Mr. Right.
3. The fact that you belong to six different dating services.
4. The fact that you had an amazing date with someone else last night.

Lies that are not tolerable:
1. Of course, I’m divorced.
2. She's just a friend.
3. I have never been arrested.